Is it just me or do our birthdays seem to come quicker the older we get? today i am the big thirty three and i actually had to double check because I could have sworn I was just 32, or was it 23? Regardless time flies by so fast and I remember when it was just Joe and I celebrating my 30th birthday in Nashville. Even though life has felt a bit upside down at times since turning thirty (having a baby, baby having heart surgery, opening a store etc etc etc) thirties have been very comfortable to me. I kind of dreaded letting go of my twenties but now that i’m here getting comfortable you couldn’t pay me to go back (unless I was gifted my old boobs back) (any my waist size circa 2010). I am getting off track, maybe it is this beautiful Pink fur Kate Spade coat, or my age, but what I am trying to say is despite the ups and downs that the last three years have given us, I love being in my thirties. I have been thinking why they seem to make me so much more at ease and I concluded that there was three things in my thirties that I have given up and let go of that have made my life so much richer.
Let go of what others think about you
I’m not going to tell you to let go of your insecurities because 1. that is cliche and 2. sometimes it’s just not possible. But I am going to tell you to do your best to let go of what others think about you. I am a people pleaser and I take criticism hard but I’ve worked VERY hard over the past few years to discern what criticism is valid and what criticism is just mean. Let in and understand the constructive feedback and build the wall against the critics meant to tear you down. You know how hard you work, how much you care and how deeply you love. Be more concerned about your character than your reputation. And wear whatever the heck you want.
The Drive to Perfection will ruin you
Let go of perfection. The drive to perfection will ruin you mentally, spiritually and physically. I don’t know anyone walking this earth right now who is 100% perfect so you might as well let go of idea of being perfect and focus on being the best version of you to yourself. Done is always better than perfect so go out there and live your life with intention and joy to the best of your abilities.
Dwelling on what was, had no bearing over what is
Let go of what was and embrace what is. There are times when I wish I was back in my twenties and could do things over again knowing what I know now. I would have saved my money, I would have said no to a few more things and I would have picked my battles a bit more. But dwelling on what was had no bearing over what is. You are going to miss the potential sweetness of your life if spend all your time wishing for what was. Focus and enjoy the NOW.
So now what? Joe and I are getting the rare opportunity to have a weekend away with just He and I. We are going to the east side for some birthday fun and check out some new restaurants and tour the Edsel Ford House. Tonight? This family of three is heading to Salt of the Earth for my birthday for some pizza and a s’more and I wouldn’t have it any other way!
Coat: Kate Spade Outlet size 8 similar online here
Skirt: Atlantic Pacific Size Medium
Jacket: Atlantic Pacific Size Large sold out this would be fun with the skirt
Shoes: Tory Burch Last Season similar style here
Top: J.Crew size Medium